Since John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth’s work in the 1970’s, attachment has been an increasing focus in therapy and healing from addiction. Averaging various studies on this, we understand roughly half of Americans are securely attached as adults and about half insecure. Attachment Theory informs us that if we are not securely attached, we are […]
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Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a highly effective therapy modality in sex and porn addiction treatment and recovery. Dick Schwartz invented this technique in the 1980’s, and it has really exploded on the scene the last ten years. The basic idea behind Internal Family Systems Therapy is to view the human psychology as comprising of different
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Is sex addiction real? Despite the prevalence of the addiction model as a treatment plan for those struggling with unwanted sexual behavior, this is actually a very controversial question. According to a national survey in 2018, 10% of men and 7% of women say they “suffer from significant levels of distress and dysfunction associated with
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Learning and implementing the principles of mindfulness and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a mindfulness-based Cognitive Based Therapy, is the first step of porn and sex addiction recovery. Mindfulness In the first therapy visit, I ask clients to start a minimum five minute per day meditation practice. In this practice, the goal is simply to
As part of a mindfulness training certification program I recently took, I did a short paper to review the course and my experience doing 21 days of meditations. I thoroughly loved this Mindfulness certification program. I have been obsessed with mindfulness for quite some time. It was very important in my recovery. It’s very important
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Question and Answer What’s the difference between sex addiction and just being a serial cheater? What is a serial cheater? A serial cheater is an individual who consistently engages in acts of infidelity across different relationships or within the same relationship. These instances are not isolated but rather a pattern that demonstrates difficulty in
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Question and Answer: I feel especially ashamed of my fantasy for cuckold and hotwife. Am I just a pervert? Can my erotic template change? Should it? Certified Sex Therapist David Ley (I don’t agree with everything he says but his perspective is worth understanding) talks about how he helped a client who was going on
(from Tara Brach) If you can start the day without caffeine or pep pills, If you can be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains, If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles, If you can eat the same food every day and be grateful for it, If you can understand when loved ones
