Holding Shame Exercise

We might have hurt our partner with our behaviors, but we have the opportunity to help them heal. By listening and validating them when they share their pain with us, we help them heal. It’s normal for them to have big feelings. We might notice our protector parts wanting to jump in to protect us from shame: a defensive part, a part that wants to hang our head and avoid, a part that wants to minimize, a part that might even want to get angry and retaliate. Notice and welcome and send compassion to those parts, and bring out our Self energy to stay present and be strong for our partner.

This is hero’s journey. You got this.