Attachment Style Test

This attachment test is a modified ECR. This is incredibly valuable information to understand your attachment style. For recovery in sex addiction and betrayal trauma but also generally in relationships and all aspects of mental health. Take the test and receive a free 15 page ebook including your results and customized counsel on how to heal, given your specific attachment style.

View sample reports:
Sample report for sex addiction
Sample report for betrayal trauma

Attachment Security Test (1) Score

Name

This test is designed to measure attachment security in an adult romantic relationship. If you are not in a relationship, answer the questions based on your last long-term relationship, or how it relates to a close friend or parent.

When my partner attempts to connect with me, it often stresses me out.(Required)
It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need.(Required)
Sometimes romantic partners change their feelings about me for no apparent reason.(Required)
Showing vulnerability is scary because I expect that people will use it to take advantage of me.(Required)
I tend not to trust other people.(Required)
I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner.(Required)
It's difficult for me to feel safe with my partner(Required)
I sometimes think I want to be more close with my partner, but then when I do, I start to feel suffocated.(Required)
I’m afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know me, he or she won’t like who I really am.(Required)
It’s not difficult for me to get close to my partner.(Required)
I am nervous when partners get too close to me.(Required)
I talk things over with my partner.(Required)
I prefer to work alone and don't like reaching out for help.(Required)
I feel afraid my partner is going to hurt me.(Required)
I often wish that my partner’s feelings for me were as strong as my feelings for him or her.(Required)
I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners.(Required)
It’s easy for me to be affectionate with my partner.(Required)
I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down.(Required)
Other people seem to have much less turbulent relationships than I do.(Required)
I’m afraid that I will lose my partner’s love.(Required)
I often worry that my romantic partner doesn’t really love me.(Required)
I tell my partner just about everything.(Required)
Sometimes I've gotten upset and don't remember what happened.(Required)
I become so focused on how my partner feels or what my partner wants, that I lose touch with what I want.(Required)
My romantic partner makes me doubt myself.(Required)
I often worry that my partner will not want to stay with me.(Required)
When dealing with the anxiety of waiting for my partner to respond to a text or call, I will sometimes lash out at them.(Required)
I don’t really know who I am.(Required)
I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.(Required)
I don’t feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners.(Required)
I sometimes overreact when I feel rejected.(Required)
I often experience a sense of abandonment in my personal relationships.(Required)
I tend to have an abnormally strong reaction to criticism.(Required)
I have not had someone to nurture me, share him/herself with me, or care deeply about what happens to me.(Required)
People have not been there to meet my emotional needs for understanding, empathy, guidance, advice, and support.(Required)
I tend to be overinvolved in my partner's life and problems.(Required)
I often feel that I need to hide parts of myself to be worthy of love and acceptance in my relationships.(Required)
I am ashamed of myself; I am unworthy of the love, attention, and respect of others.(Required)
During conflicts with my partner, I'd rather: (1) Take space to process my thoughts independently. (2) Work towards immediate discussion and resolution.(Required)
I find it more frustrating when my partner: (1) needs excessive space (2) when they seek too much closeness.(Required)
Review and uncheck if not applicable
Review and uncheck if not applicable
Which version of the report would you like?(Required)