Beta Attachment Style Test

Thank you for taking this test. There are 40 questions that are part of the assessment. Then there are seven questions that are not part of the calculation but will be used in our analysis to perfect our model.

When we finalize the calculation, we will send you a 10 page report with your results with a plan to work towards secure attachment customized to your assessment results. Look for that within the next four weeks.

There are peer-reviewed articles for how to convert the results of this test into the four attachment styles: secure, avoidant, anxious, fearful avoidant. But the graphs you might have seen like the four-quadrant graph all have a little bit of “secret sauce”. We are attempting to improve this kind of graphical presentation beyond what exists on the internet today, so your contribution is appreciated. Thank you.

Attachment Style Test -- Beta


This test is designed to measure attachment security in an adult romantic relationship. If you are not in a relationship, answer the questions based on your last long-term relationship, or how it relates to a close friend or parent.

I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner.(Required)
When my partner attempts to connect with me, it often stresses me out.(Required)
I worry a lot about my relationships.(Required)
It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need.(Required)
Sometimes romantic partners change their feelings about me for no apparent reason.(Required)
When my partner is out of sight, I worry that he or she might become interested in someone else.(Required)
People tell me I'm abnormally jumpy or easily startled when surprised.(Required)
I have frequent mood swings(Required)
I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner.(Required)
It's difficult for me to feel safe with my partner(Required)
I sometimes think I want to be more close with my partner, but then when I do, I start to feel suffocated.(Required)
I’m afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know me, he or she won’t like who I really am.(Required)
When I show my feelings for romantic partners, I’m afraid they will not feel the same about me.(Required)
It’s not difficult for me to get close to my partner.(Required)
I am nervous when partners get too close to me.(Required)
I talk things over with my partner.(Required)
I prefer to work alone and don't like reaching out for help.(Required)
I feel afraid my partner is going to hurt me.(Required)
I often wish that my partner’s feelings for me were as strong as my feelings for him or her.(Required)
I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners.(Required)
It’s easy for me to be affectionate with my partner.(Required)
I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down.(Required)
I worry that I won’t measure up to other people.(Required)
I feel like most people are too needy and can't work independently as well as I do.(Required)
I’m afraid that I will lose my partner’s love.(Required)
I often worry that my romantic partner doesn’t really love me.(Required)
I tell my partner just about everything.(Required)
When presented with dangerous or difficult situations, I often freeze or become disconnected.(Required)
I become so focused on how my partner feels or what my partner wants, that I lose touch with what I want.(Required)
I regularly feel confused and hopeless when I’m faced with challenges.(Required)
My romantic partner makes me doubt myself.(Required)
I often worry that my partner will not want to stay with me.(Required)
When dealing with the anxiety of waiting for my partner to respond to a text or call, I will sometimes lash out at them.(Required)
I can be controlling in a relationship.(Required)
I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.(Required)
I don’t feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners.(Required)
It makes me mad that I don’t get the affection and support I need from my partner.(Required)
I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.(Required)
I find myself getting frustrated with my partner, because I am putting more effort into the relationship.(Required)
When I become disconnected from my partner, I am the one apologizing, accomodating, and trying to fix it, even when it's not my fault.(Required)

The following questions are not included in the attachment style assessment report but will be used for beta analysis to help validate the model.

I identify as a sex addict or someone with problematic sexual behavior.
I identify as a partner of sex addict or someone with problematic sexual behavior.
I struggle with mental health challenges like depression, anxiety, addictions, ADHD, or personality disorder like borderline or bipolar.
I had a traumatic childhood.
My long-term, adult romantic relationships have been mostly successful.
I believe I have secure attachment.
I've taken this kind of test before, and I know my attachment style.
Review and uncheck if not applicable